Leadership Intimacy

Align4Profit Leadership Development Blog

In the following posts of the Align4Profit leadership development blog, you’ll find fascinating news, helpful advice, and easy-to-implement leader-as-coach techniques and tips for leaders in all kinds of organizations.

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September 21, 2015

Imagine: A World Without Labels

It would be impossible to live without labels. From food labels to record labels, birth names to regal titles, labels help us navigate life. They enable us to communicate. Words, specifically nouns, serve as labels. We all have labels and use them. When we need medical attention, we look for someone labeled doctor. Leaky pipe? Call the plumber! In short, labels make it possible to live in an environment as complex as human society. But it’s not only possible to […]
September 7, 2015

Passion or Service. How do you labor?

Young people have asked me, “What should I do with my talents? Should I go into management, sales, science, academia…?” Recently a very gifted leader confessed that she was seriously considering accepting an invitation to sing in a heavy metal band. I advised her to continue seriously considering. As always, I stopped at “seriously considering” and did not tell her to “go for it.” That’s up to her. However, I did tell her to consider whether her management talents or […]
August 31, 2015

Zen Attention: Understanding vs. Responding

If you are not familiar with Zen, a school of Buddhism, you may have at least encountered one or two paradoxical Zen koans like, What is the sound of one hand clapping? Such quirky questions, called koans, are meant to help one get into the Zen state of mind, a state of enlightenment that promises to provide greater understanding and peace of mind. After understanding yourself, understanding others is essential to Leadership Intimacy. We certainly could use a lot more […]
August 17, 2015

Time to play Intimacy Bingo!

I’m your host, Helanie Scott, and this is the game that measures just how intimate you might be as a leader. I say “might,” because Intimacy Bingo is not a scientific instrument. It’s Bingo. Okay, it’s not really Bingo, but you play it very much like Bingo. Best of all, when you win, you can yell, “Bingo!” Let’s begin! Everything you need to play Intimacy Bingo you’ll find the in Intimacy Bingo Kit. Download it, read the instructions, and print […]
August 3, 2015

Urgent vs. Important Priorities

One of the most important leadership skills any leader can develop is managing priorities. In other words, using priorities to make yourself more productive. When you face many demands on your time, it’s important to understand that not everything can or should get done. It sounds like a simple enough statement, but unless you fully embrace it, you will tend to feel overwhelmed by your workload. And that can make you less productive and a less effective leader. The answer […]
August 18, 2014

How to Defeat Deception

Deception is everywhere. The most ubiquitous example—advertising. No doubt you learned at an early age that marketers use all sorts of guises and even outright lies to trick you into buying their products. Not all advertising deceives as egregiously as the package illustrated in the comparison below. Of course, advertising is not the only deceiver you regularly encounter. If you’re lucky, only a few of your peers, managers, suppliers, clients, and employees pursue hidden agendas, play victim, divert your attention, […]
August 11, 2014

How to Ask Intimate Questions

Questions hold the key to the doors of effective communication. But they can do more than open doors. They can help you develop Leadership Intimacy. The sum of how you as a leader apply your emotion, cognition, behavior, and communication determines how effectively you will be able to inspire action, motivate engagement, and mobilize performance. Leaders can begin to build Leadership Intimacy with intimate questions. What are intimate questions? Intimate questions enable you to personalize your leadership approach and help […]
August 4, 2014

4 Reasons for Feedback from Multiple Sources

Feedback from multiple sources is always more reliable than any one source. Especially when the feedback conflicts with what someone already believes to be true. For example, if one person tells you that you have a green tail, you can confidently assume they are mistaken. If two people make the same observation, you might conclude they are in cahoots and pulling your leg. But when a dozen people insist, it may be time to embrace your tail! Four for More […]
July 7, 2014

How Memories Motivate

Nobel laureate and psychologist Daniel Kahneman makes a distinction between what he calls the Experiencing Self and the Remembering Self. This distinction helps explain why human experiences and memories can be so different. Why experiences fade and memories motivate. To really understand what Kahneman has to say, view the TED video Daniel Kahneman: The riddle of experience vs. memory. I offer a summary of his theory followed by what I think it means to leaders. Kahneman contends that people base […]